Giving tribute to these adorable little boys isn’t easy! From the time I saw them tiny hands at my wedding to now, the ever so loving tiny ones lighting up the place around them.
But let’s get to reality. It isn’t and I quote “Easy to bring up two at one go” Atleast that’s what we were made to believe. But the beauty of it lies in not how you mould them with enforcing your thoughts but simply letting them be themselves at any given situation. Be it day to day school stuff to going on holidays to their beautiful home in Goa to parties and chilling with friends of their parents, they’ve done it all.
A few weeks ago I came across a beautiful piece written by Daddu and it was worth sharing with all parents.
So here it goes:
The #Twindians officially turn 3 this month. And the threats to cancel their party rises exponentially as the days draw closer to the date. Cake and parties are like the quintessential ‘carrots’ we can dangle for a brief moment of silence. It’s hard to believe that they will turn three this month and what’s harder to believe is that (After many many many wine bottles, hours of quiet time locked in the bathroom, a few frustrated ‘I can’t do this anymore’ tears) we, as parents, have survived! With maybe a lot less of our sanity. The #Twindians will learn to live with crazy parents. At some point in time we all did.
Can anyone survive toddlers? NOPE! Just kidding. Though there really isn’t much more to say other than if you don’t drink wine before your child reaches this stage, you DEFINITELY will…. both during and after…
I used to be naive. I thought I would somehow be exempt from the attitude of toddlers the wise parents warn you about. But when they turned two it came on with a fury. Not one fist….not two fists….but four fists of fury!
Regardless of how crazy these years make us, they are only here for a little while (fingers crossed). I wouldn’t say we are surviving them like Olympic champions but as parents of two amazing boys I’d say hanging in there is a victory in itself.
Recently I had another parent ask if I ever get mad or yell. You seem so calm and peaceful all the time, she had said. I laughed. I laughed harder. It was a great illustration of how we all think everyone else has it more together than we do. I yell. I yell a lot. The wife yells. She yells a lot. The dog barks. She barks a lot. The kids scream. They scream a lot. We are a loud family. We talk loudly. We make grand gestures with our hands. My kids run and bounce through the house like balls in a pinball machine. Yet somehow, we have managed not to run screaming from the house dressed only in our birthday suit. At least, not yet.
Here are a few things I’ve learnt to maintain your sanity and survive those toddler years:
• Lower your standards for cleanliness and order
• Did that? Now lower them even more
• Your house will never look like a Good Housekeeping magazine spread. Period. Embrace that
• No matter how many boxes you buy to contain toys, they will always be visible. Embrace the ghetto Hamley’s/ College dorm chic look
• You can never have too much ice-cream in the freezer. How many bad moods have been fixed by a simple bowl of ice-cream!
• If you can’t change them, change your perspective. I’ve realized that bending down to pick up toys fallen from the floor 6 billion times a day is just as good a work out at the gym. The #Twindians really care about my health. How considerate of them, I say to myself while cursing under my breath
• Those chores that no one ever wants to do. Decide if you would rather do it yourself, badger your child to it, or let it go. If you are confused about what to do, see the first point of this list
• Get a dog. They always lap up the fallen food
• If you have boys, your bathroom will always faintly stink like pee. Invest in some room freshener and count down the days until they move out and you can go visit them and pee on their bathroom floor
• Don’t buy white furniture. Unless you enjoy screaming at your kids every time they go near it. In fact, don’t buy any new furniture at all. Nothing escapes them
• When your child is a young teen there will be nothing more embarrassing than your very existence. Use this to your advantage. Start planning early. That’s why I write these posts to show them later!
• Do not paint any of your walls with a fresh coat of paint
• Noise canceling headphones are great for blocking out whining, bickering and the endless episodes of Peppa Pig
• The crayons will break and it is okay to throw them away rather than save them to make some sort of craft that involves the hair dryer. In fact, I give you permission to not feel guilty about all the crafts you know you will never do
• Your children will not die from eating the occasional French fries or pizza. And by occasional, I mean more than you are really willing to admit
• If your children are driving you crazy arguing with each other, start an argument with them. Then your children will bond over their mutual hatred of you and be quiet while they plot to get rid of you (Sometimes even to burn you)
• Children do not appreciate any bedsheets or fancy quilts. Buy neither for them
• Just say no to ironing their clothes. They will look cute either ways
• Don’t be in a hurry because they will always be slow
• Get used to high-level drama
• Yes, you will become THAT parent
• Choose your battles wisely
• Hide ALL your nice thing. ALL
• Last, but not the least, a bottle of wine and some really bad Netflix makes everything seem a little better
Yippee! Here come the 3nagers! We’re going to need more than a few bottles of wine! Send help!
I would like to thank Daddu for letting me share.